Thursday, March 11, 2010

Good Report

We went for our first appointment with my regular OB/GYN today for an ultrasound and estimated due date. I tend to get apprehensive before ultrasounds (the past two anyway) because I'm so afraid that we're going to see that something went wrong. I guess it's just parental worry. Or maybe we've just had so much bad news in the past (both for ourselves and some of our friends) that I'm a little gun shy. Whatever it is, my fears have been relieved. We saw our little peanut today (who is much bigger by the way). It was very active and quite uncooperative. It kept moving around so much that the doctor couldn't get a crown to rump measurement, so for now we're going to go with the fertility specialist's estimation of September 20 for a due date. The doctor did say that "he or she has big feet". Thanks Daddy (and uncles). All the better to kick me with in a few short months I suppose :)

Mommy thinks the activity is the antsiness and general inability to just sit still that is all too prevalent on Daddy's side of the family. Daddy thinks he or she just doesn't like to have its picture taken like Mommy. We'll see :)

As a side note, we've been going back and forth for the past few weeks about whether we should find out the sex of the baby. David wants to know, but I have been on the fence about it. I don't care what the outcome is, but after writing this entry, I would like to be able to say he or she and not it. We'll see; I have about 9 more weeks to make my final decision.

Saturday, February 6, 2010

Unexpected Surprise

David and I had decided to pursue another round of In Vitro once the holidays were over. We had all of the financials in place and called the fertility clinic to schedule our next steps. The clinic nurses said to call them on day 1 of my next cycle and I could come in on day 3 for a blood test and start the first round of medications. I had not had a period since before Thanksgiving, so on December 30th, I took a home pregnancy test. It came back negative (no surprise given our history), so I called the fertility clinic and explained that it had been about 6 weeks since my last period but a home pregnancy test was negative. I was familiar with this process. In patients with PCOS, ovulation does not always occur. In my case, if I don't ovulate, I don't have a period (some women do). In the past, when this happened my OB/GYN would have me take a home pregnancy test and then call in a prescription for 5 days of Provera, a synthetic progesterone tablet, to help me have a period. When I told the nurse the results, she said that she would talk to the doctor and then probably call in a prescription for 7 days of Prometrium. I told her I have never used Prometrium and that I have had successful results with the Provera in the past, not to mention Prometrium costs about 10 times as much as generic Provera. She told me that the doctor prefers Prometrium because it is a natural progesterone that can support a potential pregnancy where Provera cannot. I thought to myself, I'm not pregnant so it's no big deal, but I didn't want to have to go in for a blood test that was required before the Provera would be prescribed because it would have ended up costing more time and money in the long run. So I agreed to the Prometrium.

We went to a New Years Eve party at our friends' house, and while it was a great time, it was bittersweet to be the only ones not in the Parents' Club. There were babies asleep upstairs, and a couple of our friends officially announced their pregnancies. I was happy for them (especially TK who had some trouble of her own in the past), but I was jealous as well. I told myself that we were working on it and put the jealousy out of my mind.

I finished the Prometrium on January 5th. With the Provera, I could usually expect the first day of my cycle to be within the next 5 days. So a week passed, and nothing happened. I didn't really think anything of it because I had not had any experience with the Prometrium; maybe it needed more time to work. Another week passed, and I still had nothing happening; not even spotting, which I knew was not right. I figured the Prometrium did not work. I went to dinner with some friends from pharmacy school, and my friend SW asked me how things were going. She and I have been talking fairly regularly because she and her husband are going through the same issues of infertility as we are right now, so we are each other's support. I told her about everything that was happening (or more specifically what was not happening), and she asked me if I could be pregnant. I said, I doubt it. I'm 99% sure I'm not pregnant. She asked me if I took a pregnancy test; I told her I didn't want to. I didn't need it to tell me I wasn't pregnant again; I already knew.

I finally had enough waiting, so I called the clinic and told the nurse that it had been two weeks since I finished the Prometrium and nothing had happened. She told me to come in the next day and the doctor would do an ultrasound to see what was going on. I went in to the office on Tuesday, January 19th, and the doctor came in to the exam room. He said he would use the ultrasound to check the thickness of the uterine lining; if it was thick, he would try the Provera and if it wasn't we could go right in to the first phase of medications for the in vitro without having a period. So he looks at the ultrasound screen and then he says, "Well I see why you're not having a period; it looks like you're pregnant." I was shocked and absolutely sure I had just hallucinated. I couldn't believe it. He congratulated me and said that the Prometrium probably helped provide a little extra to the lining to help with implantation.

I had a blood test done to confirm the pregnancy and the nurse called me later to tell me that my beta HCG was at 1500 and my progesterone levels looked great. We scheduled another ultrasound in two weeks.

I don't remember the drive home. I still don't think I've completely processed the news. David called me and asked how the doctor's appointment went. I asked him if he really wanted me to tell him over the phone. He started to panic thinking that something was wrong; I told him we got our "freebie". He was just as shocked as I was. Many people don't believe in miracles; I do. This is our miracle.

We went back this past Wednesday for our second ultrasound. We were able to see the baby and it's little flicker heartbeat. We called all of our friends to officially share our good news. We told our families the weekend after we found out, but wanted to wait and make sure everything was okay before making it public knowledge. The fertility specialist wished us the best of luck and told us to send them a birth announcement. He then released me back to my OB/GYN. I see her in two weeks. Our official due date was kind of hard to determine since the doctor thinks I ovulated late but we can't be exactly sure when it was, so we have a tentative date of September 20.

Monday, December 14, 2009

Good to go for the new year

We have everything in place to start our next fresh cycle of IVF after the holidays. I called the fertility specialist last week and they said all I have to do is call on day 1 of my next cycle and we'll start the whole process again. We hope this one is the cycle for us.

This year for Christmas David and I decided not to get each other gifts. Instead, we bought ourselves a treadmill. I'm very excited to have a piece of exercise equipment that I can use everyday without having to drive to the gym. We used to belong to a gym, but after working on your feet for 10 hours, the last thing you want to do is drive 20 minutes to a crowded gym and have to circle for a working treadmill or elliptical. My motivation for using the treadmill is Grey's Anatomy. I am only allowing myself to watch Grey's while on the treadmill. I'm hoping that this will become a daily habit that will keep me healthy and reduce stress not only during the IVF cycle but also during the resulting pregnancy.

Thursday, October 15, 2009

New Year, New Baby?

After a lot of thought and discussion, David and I have decided to go for another fresh cycle. We 've been saving for the process and hope to be able to start again after the holidays. There's no way we would survive the hectic in vitro process if it were combined with the holiday craziness. By doing this fresh cycle again, we also hope to have more embryos to freeze so they can join our two little Popsicles already in the freezer. In the mean time, I'm trying not to succumb to the wave of panic that threatens to wash over me from time to time saying that we're running out of time and we need to get started soon. I'm only 28, I'll be 29 in December. My mom didn't have her first child until 32. So many women are choosing to wait until their mid-30s to even think about starting a family. I know it's not a race (not against time or other people), and when it's the right time it will happen...hopefully.

Sunday, September 20, 2009

Our best decision

So it's looking like taking the break has been the best decision we could have made. It feels like a weight has been taken off our shoulders and the blinders have been taken off. We're no longer overly focused on the desired end result of pregnancy. I feel like we have re-entered our lives and are enjoying ourselves again. I am finding that it doesn't hurt as much when I pass a pregnant woman and I am not as focused on the belly that she has that I don't. It still hurts a little, just not as much. This break has been our best decision.

Sunday, September 6, 2009

Backing Off

After a lot of discussion, David and I have decided to take a short break from fertility treatments and anything pregnancy related. We have been going non-stop on this roller coaster since January and desperately need a break. We're discussing our options between doing the Frozen Embryo Transfer and starting at the beginning with another fresh cycle. We still haven't made our final decision, but we've started saving money for another fresh cycle in case we do decide to go that route. In the meantime, we've decided to enjoy each other's company. We haven't focused on ourselves and our time together as a couple in a really long time and I think it will do us a world of good to get back to that. I have stopped taking all medications, even prenatal vitamins, and am giving my body a much needed holiday. We will see what the future holds. In the meantime, we're going to get back to being a couple again.

Monday, August 31, 2009

Feeling slightly better today

The RE called me himself this morning to say that he was sorry the cycle didn't work this time around and that he knows how disappointing it is. He also said that he is very optimistic about our success in a future cycle; our embryos looked great and we have two more frozen. He said we can either choose to do a Frozen Embryo Transfer, where they'll thaw out our two frosties and transfer those, or we can do another fresh cycle and potentially have more frozen embryos to work with if the second fresh cycle isn't successful. David and I have a lot to think about.